Hello there blog readers! Today I’m going to talk about raising one of my children that’s about to be a teenage daughter.
Raising children period is a fulltime job. Its absolutely no vacation time and you dam sure don’t get compensated. The great thing about being a parent is watching your kids flourish into young adults. The key is in their childhood, in how you raise them to the type of adults they will become.
When my 11 year old was born, she was beautiful. She weighed seven pounds, six ounces, and she had these piercing blue eyes. I never saw an African American baby with blue eyes before, but my mother told me that I had the same thing. Eventually mines turned to a hazel color and my 11 year old turned to a pretty green color.
1 Years Old
Anyways when my daughter was 1 years old, she was the most play full thing. Forget terrible 2s, she was terrible in her ones. She was very smart and would hold a conversation with you like she was five years old. She succeeded well in Head Start . Learning her Abc’s and 123’s.
2 Years Old
When my baby turned 2, I gave her a birthday party and as requested she want me to bake her a chocolate cake. I did as promised. I never seen a baby eat so much cake before lol.
This was the age that I started potty training her and boy do I tell you, it was like pulling teeth. When they say it takes a village to raise a child, they weren’t lying. I had a whole lot of hands in this training and she just wouldn’t budge.
Until one day she was at the babysitter and she ran out of pull ups and had to wear panties. I guess she thought the pull ups were pampers too, because she didn’t mind using the bathroom in them lol. She had an accident in her underwear and she didn’t like the way it felt on her bottom at all. So the babysitter told her if she didn’t want to feel that way again, you have to use the potty. She put her on more underwear guess what?……………….She started using the potty every since.
3 Years Old
At 3 years old, my daughter was getting more curious about the world around her. She would ask “What’s wrong with the eldely?”, because of their gray hair, I tell her that over time you get older from a baby to little girl, from a little girl to a teenager, from teenager to grown-up, and from grown-up to an old person.
I would tell her that she turns older evey birthday. I didn’t expected her to fully understand the aging process, but I try to explain the aging process as simply as I can. That’s why you have to teach them as much as you can when they’re that young.
4 Years Old
My daughter had to go stay with her grandma for two years, due to my personal issues that needed to be tended to. I lost two years of her life. I regreted the day I had to make that decision, but she was better off with her. Now I did see her on weekends and holidays to keep in touch. It killed me every time I had to good bye to her, because I felt that she shouldn’t be going anywhere. So I pretty much missed the 4th and 5th year of her life.
6 Years Old
My daughter finally came back home because I got back on my feet. The two years that I missed with my daughter changed her life. She thought I didn’t want her any more, no matter how much I tried to explain. As time went on she soon learned that wasn’t it at all. All I had to do was keep informing her that I love her and she doesn’t have to leave ever again. She really her had a good year in kindergarten.
7 Years Old
This is when my daughter teeth was coming out. Oh yea! Those baby teeth was out and in with the adult teeth. I notice a change in her behavior, because she just couldn’t sit down or stop talking and she was even like this in school. During parent and teachers conferences, it was always she can do better, she’s easily distracted instead of focusing on what she has to do. Thats the reason why she doesn’t know the material, because of her lack of focus. I later found out that she has HADSD. So with her medication she did ok in school for a couple of years.
8 Years Old
This is when my daughter started developing into a young lady. She had more femine parts that any 8 year old that I’ve seen. So at that age, I talked to her about the menstrual cycle. She was scared and ask me “Does it hurt?” I told her sometimes it does and sometimes not. I wanted my daughters and I to have an open communication relationship. Sometimes they talk to much and sometimes I be like please shut up lol. She tells me about boys in her school and whos cute and whos not.
She’s very over-protected when it comes to her 5 year old sister. She wouldn’t allow no one messing with her and yet they fight like most sisters do. But they love each other deeply.
9 Years Old
Well now my daughter, at this age has really matured. She understands a lot more important things. Like why school is so important, and having a job, the value of a dollar, saving money and not spending it every time she gets some. Now she wants to be treated like she’s older and wants independency.
10 Years Old
Now my daughter is really feeling herself because shes in the double digit age and close to being a teen. This is when the eye rolling and smacking the teeth start. And every time she does it, it makes me want to put her over my knee. She thinks she’s too big for spankings, and I proved that over and over again. This is the age when she around her friends and the peer pressure is all around her. That’s why I stay on her and ask her how her day was at school, and what happen, ECT.
You have to teach your daughters as soon as possible to respect their bodies and carry themselves as respectable young ladies, so that they can always have a good reputation to follow them.
11 Years Old
This is the age my daughter is today and I’m still raising her to become a successful adult and support want ever she wants to be in life. I tell no matter how hard it seems, you keep at it then the doors will open for you. She wants to be a clothing designer and a v-logger. I tell all my kids that they can be whatever they want to be, as long as they’re happy.
Well that’s it for now guys. I have a few more years until my 11 year old turns 18, so the journey continues.